Squirting, or female ejaculation, remains one of the most taboo and mysterious topics related to sex. While it's been known for ages, it has become a cultural phenomenon in recent years, prompting many women to seek legitimate guidance to experience it themselves. However, the term's popularity has also sparked misinformation, adding to the stigma and historical inaccuracies surrounding female sexual health.
Understanding Female Ejaculation
First things first: it’s important to know that squirting and female ejaculation are not the same thing. Female ejaculation is a normal and universal response to orgasm, in which a very small amount of liquid - about 2 teaspoons - is secreted from the vagina at the time of climax. Biologically speaking, female ejaculation is believed to occur as the body’s way of flushing out potential bacteria following sexual intercourse.
What is Squirting?
Now, squirting also involves the excretion of discharge upon orgasm, but it’s quite different. Squirting involves the release of far more than 2 teaspoons of liquid, and it typically spews out rather than dribbles.
Not only that, but where the liquid comes from is totally different, too. While female ejaculate comes from a glandular tissue around the urethra, squirting comes exclusively from the bladder, as shown in a 2022 study.
This has led to one of the most hotly debated topics in sex pop culture: Given that it comes from the bladder, is squirt fluid actually just pee? Let’s find out.
Common Myths
There are all kinds of myths out there about squirting, so we want to dispel as many of them as possible.
Myth #1: Squirting is Just a Form of Urination: This is probably the biggest misconception about squirting. Yes, the liquid comes from the bladder, and actually contains a few chemical compounds that are also in urine. But, chemically, it’s not urine, and it’s also odorless and colorless, unlike urine.
Myth #2: Most Women are Physically Incapable of Squirting: This one is actually still up for debate, but most experts will tell you that at least biologically, all women technically can squirt, although at least 50% of women never will in their lifetime, for reasons that are still misunderstood.
Myth #3: Squirting is Actually a Myth Perpetuated by the Porn Industry: When squirting first became part of the sexual vernacular, a lot of people believed that it’s not actually real, and an illusion created by the porn industry. Of course, now we know that’s not true.
Myth #4: Squirting is Unnatural: There’s absolutely nothing unnatural about squirting, and many, many women squirt frequently. In fact, a lot of women went their whole sexual lives assuming that all women do, until the term hit the mainstream.
Myth #5: If a Woman Doesn’t Squirt, it’s Because You Didn’t Satisfy Her Enough: Some people will tell you that women only squirt when they experience a particularly intense orgasm. While women may be more likely to squirt if the orgasm is intense (the jury is still out for that one, but there seems to be a correlation), some women will just never squirt, regardless of sexual pleasure.
Preparing Yourself
Now, let’s talk about how to squirt, if you want to give it a try. Again, keep in mind that no matter what, it might not just be in the cards for you, as scientists continue to try to figure out why it comes so naturally to some women, and others will just never squirt no matter how much they master certain “techniques.” With that being said, here are the steps that can best facilitate squirting, should it be something your body is ready to do.
Mental Relaxation
First off, it’s always good to get into a relaxed headspace before engaging in any sexual activity, whether solo or with a partner. Never underestimate just how much stress can interfere with your ability to feel the maximum amount of pleasure your body wants to. Stress can also tighten up those muscles that are critical in achieving an orgasm.
Creating a Comfortable Environment
Making sure you’re in a comfortable environment can help you physically relax enough to enable squirting. Ensure you’re physically comfortable, in that you’re in a position that allows your muscles to release tension. Consider adjusting the lighting, and make sure that if you’re engaging solo, you feel like you’re in a private enough environment to totally let go.
Physical Preparation
There are some ways to physically prepare for squirting, as they can enhance your ability to achieve this sexual milestone.
Establishing a Strong Pelvic Floor
It seems that there may be a link to your pelvic floor and your squirting potential. While researchers still aren’t entirely sure, there’s a good chance that the stronger your pelvic floor is, the more likely you are to squirt. So, what does that mean? All the more reason to do your Kegel exercises daily, squeezing those pelvic muscles multiple times a day!
Bladder Considerations
One thing we hear from a lot of women is that right before they squirt, it feels a lot like they have to pee - and that makes sense, considering both actions are related to the bladder. We recommend emptying your bladder prior to trying to squirt, as this way, should the sensation come up, you won’t instinctively hold back for fear of urinating.
Techniques for Squirting
Now, let’s talk about the best techniques once you’re all prepared via the steps above.
Finding the G-Spot
First, squirting seems to be more likely when you’re properly stimulating your G-spot (the little piece of spongy tissue about an inch inside of the vaginal wall). The best way to find the G-spot is to insert your finger into your vagina and do a “come here” motion, toward the belly button, feeling around for that tissue. Keep in mind that only about 18% of women can orgasm from G spot stimulation alone - in other words, you may need to stimulate the clit simultaneously to actually reach orgasm.
Manual Stimulation
There are all kinds of ways to stimulate the G-spot, and each women is naturally going to have her own preferences. And again, some women will never orgasm from G-spot stimulation alone, and that’s totally okay.
Finger Techniques
Using your finger is a great way to get to know your G-spot better. Once you locate it, you can begin stimulating it similarly to how you would stimulate your clitoris. Begin with soft, slow motions and gradually increase pressure and speed, paying attention to your body's responses. Many women find that a G-spot orgasm builds more slowly and lasts longer than a clitoral orgasm, so be patient and allow yourself time.
Using Toys
You might also want to use toys, as there are all kinds of sex toys out there that are designed specifically to stimulate the G-spot. Let’s elaborate.
G-Spot Vibrators
G spot vibrators are vibrators made exclusively for G-spot stimulation, as clitoral vibrators should not be used internally. G-spot vibrators are curved to reach the G spot easily, and then provide the right speed and vibrational intensity to produce feelings of intense pleasure.
Dildos
A classic dildo offers control over motion, pressure, and speed. Choose one that feels comfortable in terms of size and shape, considering the variety of options available.
Enhancing the Experience
Now that we’ve covered the basics, let’s talk about how to take things to the next level, with various techniques for enhancing pleasure even more. Remember that a lot of women report that they squirt more when they reach a certain threshold of physical pleasure.
Incorporating Lubrication
Using lube is always a good idea for any sexual activity, as it prevents friction that can make things uncomfortable, and allows for a smoother penetration, whether it’s your finger or a toy.
Types of Lubes
There are all kinds of lubricants to try, including silicone and water-based lubes. Water-based lubricants are best if you’re using a silicone sex toy, to prevent degrading of the material, while silicone-based lubes have more of a slip and are great for manual stimulation.
Application Tips
Apply lube liberally and reapply if necessary! There is no real risk of using too much lube, so don’t be shy.
Experimenting with Positions
Now, let’s discuss positions. The ideal position for G-spot stimulation can vary between women due to personal preference and the natural tilt of the pelvis.
The Best Positions for G-Spot Stimulation
Most women find that having their butt raised helps, because of the way in which it tilts the pelvis. Try lying down on your back, and then placing a pillow under your buttocks.
Partner Involvement
Obviously, there’s no reason not to get a partner involved. And, a partner may be able to stimulate your G-spot in ways that you can’t. If you want to stimulate your G-spot through penetration from a partner, consider the shape and size of their penis, which can affect what feels best, and what offers the most direct hit to the G-spot.
Tips for Success
Focusing back on squirting, let’s offer some more tips that can bring you closer to your potential, should it be something that your body wants to do.
Tip #1: Patience and Practice
Patience and practice are key, because it may be tempting to give up after the first couple of tries. And, rather than putting pressure on yourself to get it right, simply enjoy the sensations that come up, without putting as much emphasis on an end goal. Some women, again, may never squirt, and some may when they’re least expecting it.
Tip #2: Listening to Your Body
The key to a healthy relationship with our own sexuality is always listening to our body. Pay attention to the sensations that come up, and which positions and techniques provide the most pleasure. Remember what we said before - that right before you squirt, it might feel like you have to pee. As long as your bladder is empty, try to power through that sensation and see what happens.
Aftercare and Clean-Up
After you’re all done, should you squirt at long last, make a point to follow proper aftercare, whether with a partner or alone.
Post-Ejaculation Care
As always, especially following a particularly intense session, you’ll want to rest and hydrate, to rebalance your body. Again, listen to your body and give yourself the care you feel you need.
Cleaning Up
Naturally, cleaning up is also important. To clean up ejaculatory fluids, consider washing your sheets, and showering to clean yourself off.
Conclusion
If you’ve ever wondered 'what is squirting?' and 'how to squirt,' we hope we've provided a comprehensive overview of the best techniques to help you achieve it. While not every woman will experience it, many are surprised to discover they can succeed by understanding their bodies better. The key is patience, exploring what works for you, and relaxing fully, while nurturing a deeper relationship with your G-spot. Good luck!