One of the greatest mysteries of sexual intercourse, the elusive G spot has been a source of both fascination and frustration amongst sexually active people and sex researchers alike since the dawn of time. Once believed to be an exclusively female phenomenon, we now recognize that both men and women have their respective G spots, which are small sections of the genitalia that are responsible for orgasms.
Throughout history, we’ve heard all kinds of myths about the G spot, particularly when relating to the female body. Today, we want to dispel those myths, and provide an educational perspective on this powerhouse of nerve endings, while focusing on both the male and female counterparts.
Understanding the G Spot
What is a G spot? Traditionally, the term “G spot” exclusively referred to female genitalia, although now, the male prostate has been coined a “G spot” as well, as it’s also an often overlooked part of genitalia that, once located and stimulated properly, can provide intense orgasms. We will be covering both, but first, we want to focus mostly on the female G spot, which is more famous and a bigger part of the greater conversation about sex and pleasure.
What is a G Spot?
The G Spot is a very small area inside of the vagina, and it’s short for “the Grafenberg spot”, coined after the German physicist who studied female sexual health. The G spot can enable a woman to experience orgasm during sexual intercourse, or through manual stimulation (or stimulation with a sex toy).
Now, we want to clarify something that’s quite controversial. According to studies, only about 18% of women can orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone - in other words, 82% of women are believed to not be able to reach orgasm even if the G spot is stimulated. Many women require clitoral stimulation simultaneously to reach climax, so finding the G spot does not mean that you’re automatically going to orgasm each time you’re experiencing penetration.
Where is the G Spot?
So, where is the G spot, anyway? Well, this small, spongy bundle of tissue is located about an inch into the vaginal wall, toward the belly button rather than the back. Like the labia and clitoris, it can swell up during arousal, due to the increase in blood flow to the area. The G spot, like the clitoris, has many nerve endings that explain why stimulation of it can lead to orgasm.
Where is the Male G Spot?
Going back to talking about the male G spot, this refers to the prostate, hence its other nickname, the “P spot.” It’s located directly behind the rectum, and it’s much easier to find - and stimulate - than the female G spot. It responds quickly to stimulation, which helps matters, and is said to produce extremely powerful orgasms when stimulated either internally or externally.
Techniques to Locate the G Spot
Finding the male G spot is relatively easy, since it’s a very accessible region of the male body. Finding the female G spot is much more complex, as the area is quite small, and not directly located inside of the vagina, but up and toward the front of the body.
Communication and Consent
Before experimenting with the G spot, it’s important to communicate clearly with your partner, and make sure that both of you are on the same page, whether you’re the one stimulating your partner’s G spot, or the partner wishing to receive G spot stimulation. Communication and consent are two paramount pillars to any sexual experience between one or more people.
Creating Comfort and Relaxation
It’s also important to ensure that you’re comfortable and relaxed, if you’re the one with the G spot. If you’re stressed or physically uncomfortable, this can cause the vaginal muscles to become tense, making it harder to access the G spot, and making it more difficult to experience pleasure, in general.
Manual Stimulation of the G Spot
If you’re wondering how to find the G spot, we’re here to help. One of the best ways to discover the G spot is through manual stimulation - that is, using your hands. Let’s elaborate.
Finger Technique
The tried-and-true method to finding your own G spot is to insert a finger into the vagina, with the pad of your finger facing front. Then, use a “come here” motion with your finger, feeling around for this spongy part of the vaginal wall. Using varying levels of pressure and motion/speed can stimulate the G spot in a way that becomes more pleasurable as time goes on. Of course, this method can be performed on you by a partner, as well.
Exploring Sexual Positions for G Spot Stimulation
There are certain sex positions that can be more effective at stimulating the G spot, as well. Cowgirl or reverse cowgirl can be effective, depending on the shape of the man’s penis, and these positions give you more control over intercourse, so that you can stimulate your G spot until you reach orgasm.
Using Toys for G Spot Stimulation
There are sex toys that can help you access and stimulate the G spot more easily, too. Let’s elaborate.
Vibrators
Some vibrators provide simultaneous stimulation to the clitoris and the G spot, through the use of extensions that are inserted into the vagina.
Dildos
Dildos can be very effective, and allow you to explore the G spot in a way that’s private. Of course, they can be used with a partner, too. You can control the dildo, feeling around until you find what works for you.
Enhancing G Spot Pleasure
Once you do find the G spot, you and a partner (or you, solo) can make adjustments to how it’s stimulated in order to find what works for you.
Communicating with Your Partner
If you’re engaging in G spot stimulation with a partner, communication is everything! Don’t be afraid to tell them what’s working and not working, and ask them to try something different to see how it feels. By the same token, if you feel uncomfortable at any point, make that clear.
Experimentation and Exploration
Experimenting and exploring are a critical part of experiencing one’s own sexuality, and that’s why we always recommend trying new techniques, toys, and tips to experience G spot pleasure.
Benefits and Myths About the G Spot
There’s a lot of information out there that’s confusing when it comes to the G spot, as a lot of contradictory info can be found online and in publications. Besides that, our understanding of it has evolved a lot over recent decades. Let’s separate fact from fiction.
Sexual Satisfaction
First off, we want to talk about the benefits. Finding your G spot can add to the feelings of pleasure you experience during sexual activities, whether alone or with a partner, and that’s why we always encourage our female customers to make an effort to explore it.
Dispelling Misconceptions
Finally, let’s talk about some misconceptions about the female G spot that persist. Perhaps the most important thing to reiterate is that the majority of women will not orgasm from G spot stimulation alone, no matter how many techniques you try. And, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with needing some clitoral stimulation to get you there.
Now, at the same time, there are still people out there who believe that the G spot does not exist, and that women don’t actually experience any sexual satisfaction from intercourse. This, of course, is untrue, and science has proven these people wrong.
Finding and Servicing the G Spot Can Truly Lead to a Better Experience for Both Partners in the Bedroom
Now you know how to hit the G spot, and that refers to both the female and male G spot. The key is experimenting, communicating, and recognizing that the G spot alone may not be enough to bring everyone to orgasm. Luckily, discovering it can give you more insight into what your body craves for sexual pleasure, helping to give you a better understanding of your own sexuality.