Sure, there's nothing wrong with focusing on the bedroom for your sexual activities. But, once in a while, opting for another location in the home can reinvigorate your sex life. And so, if you’re looking to make things extra steamy, no pun intended, there’s no better location than the shower.
Shower sex can be incredibly hot, or it can be a dud. That’s because a lot of people don’t make the necessary preparations or understand the accommodations that need to be made. Naturally, when you throw water and a confined space into the mix, you need to make some adjustments to your normal sex routine, especially in finding positions that cater to erogenous zones. Luckily, we’re here to help by providing several perfect sex positions for shower sex.
Preparing for Shower Sex
Before getting to it, preparation is key. Of course, having sex in the shower poses some risks, mainly because water can make things slippery, and just when you’re starting to lose yourself in feelings of arousal and desire, it’s all the more important to be really careful, to make sure that neither you nor your partner end up slipping and getting hurt.
Besides that, you’ll want to make certain preparations so that you don’t need to leave the shower at any point, since that can kill the mood, and simply be inconvenient. If you and your partner use a condom, make sure it’s already accessible by the time you’re both in there. Also, have towels ready to go, so that you can dry off quickly after leaving.
Safety Tips
Now, we get it. Some couples prefer spontaneity, and perhaps you want to surprise your partner during their morning shower. If that’s the case, here are some safety tips we strongly recommend preparing ahead of time. This ensures you're fully prepared when the moment arrives.
Tip #1: Non-Slip Mats
Non-slip mats are pretty much essential for shower sex - in fact, you should have them anyway. Given the movement involved in shower sex, you really need to avoid slipping at all costs, and a non-slip mat on the shower floor means you won’t have to think about it.
Tip #2: Sturdy Support
Some support can also make a big difference. If you have a shower rail, then awesome - that’s something you can grab onto. If your shower is built without any reliable support, then you’ll just need to be extra careful.
Setting the Mood
Now, let’s talk about mood. It’s important that both partners are comfortable during shower sex, and a big part of that is creating the right environment ahead of time. Let’s elaborate.
Temperature and Lighting
Temperature and lighting go a long way when it comes to any sexual activity, but serve a more functional purpose as far as shower sex is concerned. Temperature is especially important when it comes to the water temp, since one partner being too hot or too cold can kill the vibes. Make sure to find a water temp that works for both of you, even if you need to compromise.
Most of us can agree that bright, fluorescent lights aren’t sexy. If you can, use dimmer lights, or a nightlight that’s plugged into the wall. You don’t want it to be too dark either, because that can become a safety hazard, as no one wants to slip because they can’t see where they’re going.
Best Shower Sex Positions
Now, there are countless positions and variations you can try in the shower with your partner. Safety and comfort are key due to the unique conditions of a shower stall. If you need inspiration to get started, here are our favorite go-to positions for some fun in the shower with a partner.
Standing Face-to-Face
Obviously, lying down positions are almost certainly out - assuming you don’t have a gigantic shower floor. So, most positions recommended for the shower simply take popular horizontal positions, and even make them vertical (aka standing). For example, standing face-to-face in the shower with your partner is basically a standing take on missionary.
Technique
Ideally, have one partner grab onto some type of support, so that they can stay stable and avoid falling or fatiguing mid-session. Now, it may make sense for the female partner to lift one leg to facilitate the position, making it easier for the male partner to insert himself.
Now, once you both have found a stable position, you may need to continue adjusting yourselves to ensure comfort and proper penetration. Experimenting with different leaning positions can help.
Benefits and Considerations
This position is a really easy one to “slip into” since in all likelihood, you’re already facing one another. And, it allows you to maintain eye contact and/or kiss, if that’s up your alley. Just make sure that both partners are physically stable the whole time, and that both partners are comfortable, as well, as the position can be a bit more challenging.
The Backslide
If you’re more into a “from behind” kind of person, the backslide may make more sense. And, it’s a little easier to pull off when one partner is penetrating the other from behind, as the front partner can bend over if necessary to both keep themselves stable and enable easier penetration.
Technique
For this position, the female partner can lean against a wall and find a bent position that works with the height of her partner. It may help to hold onto a shower rail or the wall, as long as the wall isn’t too slippery. The male partner can then insert himself from behind, keeping his legs steady so as not to slip.
Benefits and Considerations
This position is preferred by a lot of people, because it can allow for deeper penetration, and the male partner can thrust more easily when the female partner is bending her body. We do recommend that the female partner tilts her lower back upward, as this can feel better, and it can help prevent the penis from slipping out mid-session.
Against the Wall
Because of the natural constraints of the shower, leaning against the wall may make the most sense, as that can be a way to stabilize the entire experience. This is just a variation on the first position we covered, using the wall as an extra form of support.
Technique
Have the female partner lean against the wall, with her front facing the male partner. Again, the female partner might find that it’s helpful to lift one of the legs; and tilt her pelvis upward. Then, the male partner, facing her, can insert himself. Because she’s stabilized by the wall, he might find it helpful to hold onto her hips.
Benefits and Considerations
This position has all of the benefits of the “face-to-face” position we talked about before, with the extra benefit of stability thanks to the use of the wall. By using the wall for support, couples also have more freedom with their hands and legs. Just keep in mind that the wall will be slippery in all likelihood, so you’ll still want to be a bit careful.
The Chair
One workaround to the common constraints of a shower is using a chair – a waterproof one. This is ideal for those who would rather not use a standing position, and just want a bit more stability.
Technique
Place a chair on a slip-proof mat (that part is super important), and have the male partner sit on the chair. Now, the female partner can get on top, just like she would in the cowgirl position. Just to be on the safe side, it may be wise to make sure that at least one partner always has their legs firmly planted on the shower floor.
Benefits and Considerations
Again, this position offers stability, which is a major benefit. It's ideal for those who prefer seated positions or face challenges with standing due to height differences. Ensure the chair is securely placed on the shower floor to avoid any hazards.
The Lift
Finally, there's the lift, perhaps the most advanced position of all. It requires flexibility from the female and significant upper body strength from the male. In this position, the male lifts the female, holding her off the ground with her legs in the air.
Technique
Again, this one can be a bit challenging, so we strongly recommend practicing this position on stable ground beforehand. Basically, there is a risk of falling if you’re not totally sure of what you’re doing, and that can be extra dangerous in the shower.
Now, the male partner will want to lift up the female partner by placing his hands under her buttocks, while she wraps her legs around his hips. It may be helpful to use the wall for support, if necessary. Then, the male and female can work together with every thrust to keep the proper motion going.
Benefits and Considerations
When done correctly, this position makes it easy to find the perfect alignment and enhances intimacy as one partner holds the other tightly. It's an advanced position, so ensure you can manage it comfortably before trying it in the shower.
Enhancing the Experience
Now, let’s take things a step further, if you want to enhance the experience. Here are our favorite ways to make shower sex even steamier.
Use of Shower Accessories
If you want to bring some accessories into the mix, we’ve got some tips below.
Tip #1: Handheld Showerhead
The handheld showerhead is your best friend if you’re looking for some extra stimulation. It’s a great option for foreplay, as it can be used to stimulate erogenous areas like the clitoris, nipples, and penis. Bonus points if your showerhead has adjustable water pressure.
Tip #2: Waterproof Toys
Waterproof sex toys are a thing, and they can add to the fun in all kinds of ways. A lot of women prefer some clitoral stimulation during penetration in order to reach orgasm, and the right waterproof vibrator, for example, can get her there.
Communication and Consent
As always, communication and consent are just as important as physical pleasure. Make sure you and your partner are communicating throughout the duration of the experience, even if nonverbally (body language, facial reactions, etc.) so that you’re both on the same page. Consent is always important too, even in committed relationships, so that both partners are having their needs met, without any boundaries being crossed.
Checking in
Checking in is always important, not just when engaging in shower sex, but any sexual activity. Asking your partner if they’re enjoying it, if they want to try something else, and if their body is comfortable can go a long way in establishing trust and healthy connection.
Adjusting as Needed
Most of the time, you might want to make adjustments during sex, in order to find a position that’s more comfortable for you and your partner. Make adjustments as needed so that both partners are comfortable at all times.
Aftercare
Finally, there’s aftercare. We’re firm believers in the idea that intimacy doesn’t end with the orgasm - it ends after both partners wind down together and maintain their connection through emotional intimacy or physical touch.
Post-Shower Routine
To keep the good feelings going, engage in your post-shower routine together, rather than having one partner run off. This is how you can sustain the connection you created during sex.
Drying Off Together
Drying off together, and even drying each other off, can be a great way to sustain the feeling of intimacy.
Hydration and Relaxation
Drink some water and relax together, to wind down and stay connected. Besides, you don’t want to feel dizzy, especially if your partner wants to go another round later on.
Shower Sex Adds Another Dimension Your Romantic Lifestyle
Sex in the shower can be a great way to switch things up and explore a new form of intimacy. The key is finding the right shower sex positions, whether they involve standing, lifting your partner, or using a good old chair. And obviously, safety must always come first, since the shower can be dangerous as it gets slippery. Most importantly, whichever sex positions in the shower you choose, make sure that you and your partner communicate, prioritize one another’s comfort levels, and have fun!